Too many people, when asked for their opinion, dissemble. Instead of giving an opinion, they push back. They ask,
- What do you think?
- Did you do any research?
- Can we do a focus group?
- What did Will say?
- There’s a typo on page three
- How long do we have to study this?
- Can we form a committee?
This is the work of the resistance. This is your lizard brain, hiding. It feels safe. It’s not.
You’re an expert. If nothing else, you’re an expert on life, on your opinion, on being a consumer. When I ask you for your opinion I’m not asking you for the right answer. I’m asking you for your opinion.
This is so apt for the workplace. The funny thing is, I’d like a little more dissembling at home. I get more opinions than I really want a lot of the time!
But maybe that’s a good sign, a sign that all voices in the family are at least being heard. I’d just like to be able to agree on a restaurant without a big discussion for once …